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Grave Expectations: There’s More to Funeral Planning Than Sourcing Free Funeral Program Templates Online. Have You Already Begun Planning Your Own Unique Memorial Service?

January 21, 2010 by  
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Grave Expectations: There's More to Funeral Planning Than Sourcing Free Funeral Program Templates Online. Have You Already Begun Planning Your Own Unique Memorial Service?

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A recent article in the AARP Bulletin, titled “The High Cost of Dying,” discussed how easily funeral costs can spin out of control. The article noted that this happens primarily because your surviving relatives — faced with unexpectedly having to quickly put together a funeral while simultaneously grieving your demise  — just don’t have the time or energy to price shop or bargain.

Hey, you can understand: They’re grieving for you, right?

Besides which, it’s human nature to want to provide a loved one with the best funeral possible, as a show of respect, right? This classic skit by Nichols and May really exemplifies the dilemmas grieving relatives experience. You’ll find yourself laughing out loud as you squirm at the man’s discomfort with the sales pitch he’s receiving. After all, she’s not even offering him the option of free funeral program templates!

Sadly, if you’ve recently found yourself planning a funeral, you may believe that not much has changed in the years since they first created it:

The AARP article also points out many people have the impression that the magnitude of the casket is an indicator of socioeconomic status. No doubt that accounts for all those solid bronze caskets still offered in most funeral homes.  (After all, who wouldn’t want to be packaged for death like an ancient Egyptian pharoah, right?)

How about you?

Do you want to exit the world in a solid bronze casket? Or would you rather have a deeply meaningful service that you’ve planned in advance — and the opportunity to leave the money that could have gone for that fancy casket to your grandchildren or a worthy cause?

If you’re more into benefiting family or charitable causes with your worldly goods, they now is the time for you to take action to assure your wishes are met. Why not plan your funeral now — or at least discuss it with your family?

Think of funeral planning as being just as important as the plans families make for a birth, a wedding or a graduation. That you can both enjoy the funeral you’d really like, as well as save your family a lot of future pain. (After all, you’ll be there, both in body and spirit.)

  • Don’t you agree that now — when you’re still hale, healthy and able to speak your mind — is really the best time for you to give some thought to what you’d like to have transpire at your personal memorial service?
  • That way your surviving family members will be saved from the pressure tactics and indecision many currently encounter when talking to a funeral director while trying to give you the send-off they think you’d prefer.
  • After all, you hate to waste money, and you’re well aware that the “traditional funeral” — complete with embalming, viewing in that expensive casket, funeral ceremony and graveside service — is not the only option.

If You Just Want to “Dip Your Toe” Into the Concept of Personalized Funeral Planning, Here Are Some Small – But Extremely Helpful – Things You Can Do:

For starters, how about writing up your obituary now – except for the specifics of when, where and how?

After all,  if you can provide all the “nitty gritty” specifics – such as what high school you attended, or the names of all relevant survivors, this is a real help for whoever is managing your final arrangements.  If you’re famous, the newspapers already have an obit on file for you. Thankfully, for the rest of us, there are readily available fill-in-the blank forms, which will help get you started.

Here are a few you can review. Keep in mind that in addition to the specifics of your death –  which you obviously don’t know at this time – the obituary gives you a chance to tell your story, to create your legacy statement, and get it out there the way you’d like it told:

OK, That Was Easy:

So Why Not Take a Figurative Deep Breath and Jump Into the Deep End of the Memorial Pool? You Know, Spend a Little Time to Plan Your Funeral – EXACTLY the Way You’d Like It?

After all, unless you take the time to write up your plans – and keep them somewhere where they can be found in time – only you know that you’d always secretly wanted something special and personally meaningful, like:

  • To have your funeral procession led by your high school’s marching band
  • A real Irish wake
  • A Viking funeral, complete with a burning pyre floating off to sea
  • A huge send-off party at your country club, with all your friends toasting your life – and maybe you’d like to sign off by treating them to a “hootenanny” and a hot air balloon ride
  • A quiet memorial service after you’ve donated your body to science
  • A service with full military honors. Perhaps you’ve even wondered whether – since you are a war veteran —  you might even qualify to be buried at Arlington National Cemetery?
  • Then again, maybe your dream is to have your ashes scattered over place that holds special meaning for you. Perhaps your dream is to be:

Now’s the time to think about what really appeals to you.

Assuming you’ll want some sort of memorial service involved, you can even pre-determine the specifics including:

  • What sort of coffin you desire. After all, not all coffins are made of solid wood anymore.
    • There are “green” coffins made of cardboard, for example, which can be decorated to suit your personal style.
    • Or you may prefer something natural and recyclable, such as bamboo or wicker.
    • Or – can you imagine – there’s an “ecopod,” that’s actually made of recycled newspaper?
    • And, then there are all sorts of caskets, urns, body bags and shrouds. You could have a unique clay pot specially commissioned, for example. Eco Urns are made from completely natural materials and are fully bio-degradable and are suitable for either burial or cremation.
  • Your funeral budget. Funeral expenses can quickly add up.
    • Few relatives want to worry that they didn’t provide you with the send-off you deserve, so they often spend money on things which might mean nothing to you.
    • Currently you’d need to budget $10,000 for an average funeral in the United States. More if you’re really intrigued with the special events and party planners…
    • If you’re determined to have your money go elsewhere, you may want to join the Funeral Consumers Alliance in your area.
  • Any special poems or readings you’d like shared with your friends and family
  • Your preferred music and songs so that you can set the tone for the ceremony.For example:
    • Do you want your favorite rock music blasting out triumphantly as people enter the service?
    • Or would you prefer a simple flute – or maybe a throbbing drumbeat?
    • Or maybe some Cajun zydeco that merrily sets everyone’s feet a-tapping?
  • Your preferred pallbearers – and you’d like to have offer your eulogy?
  • The funeral venue is important too.
    • Do you feel that a traditional church or funeral home chapel is where you’d like people to assemble?
    • Or maybe you’re an outdoors-y kind of gal, and you’d rather people gather in a lovely bower in the woods.
    • Then again, perhaps you feel drawn to the sea, and you’d like your service to be held on the water, or overlooking your favorite beach.
  • You’ll even have the opportunity to dictate what sort of catering and transport you’d prefer. Here’s where you can let your family know that you’d love it if everyone:
    • Finished off the ceremony by feasting on BBQ ribs and toasting your memory with your favorite micro-brew beer
    • Enjoyed a campfire meal at your favorite national park, complete with hot dogs roasted on a stick and s’mores, or
    • Toasted your memory with your favorite vintage champagne before riding off to the opera in a fleet of white limos
    • Hey, it’s your funeral, as they say… And it’s your last chance to tell your loved ones where you’d like them to go!

One easy way to assemble this information for posterity would be to plan your service and even create the program for it now. Again, there are planning forms available online – and even free funeral program templates.

Heck, you can even order the stock for the funeral programs in advance, selecting your photo, the cover image, etc.

Alternately, you can create a video of your life story, and make it permanently available online or on your headstone. Or, perhaps hand out  CD copies of your video as funeral keepsakes.

Recently Carmen Flowers and Sue Bailey, authors of the recently published book, “Grave Expectations,”  Were Featured on NBC’s “Today” show.

Here’s their take on funeral planning:

Need Even More Help and Ideas? Here’s a Handful of Additional Sources For Funeral Planning  Services:

And Here Are Several Other Great Funeral and Memorial Resources:

Final thoughts on Pre-Planning Your Funeral

As the cliche points out, no one can escape death or taxes. So why not take some time when you are healthy and pre-plan your own funeral? It is a surprisingly simple thing to do and really don’t cost much.

  • If you’re at a loss for ideas, not really sure how you want to be memorialized, the links are great starting points. The book “Grave Expectations” is actually subtitled “Planning The End Like There’s No Tomorrow,” and it’s a fantastic resource for idea starters.
  • Or if you’re not into reading, you can start your planning efforts by contacting a funeral home in your community and ask them to come to your home and discuss what you’d prefer. Once you’ve decided on your arrangements, the company will provide you with a quote, and you can choose to pay for it in monthly installments.
  • As you can see, pre-planning allows you to the peace of mind of knowing that your funeral will be exactly what you want — and the price will be locked in and will not change – no matter how long you live.
  • Given that, you have to agree that pre-planning your funeral is not a bit morbid – especially since it means that when your time comes, your family will be freed from having to make arrangements in the midst of their grief.

Based on personal experience, you know they’ll appreciate the fact that they can focus completely on celebrating your life with friends and family – and of course, their grief! Given that we all have to go eventually, isn’t that really the way you’d like to leave this world?

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Bucket List Game Reminds Us That THIS Is the Year You Can Achieve Anything You Want: You Haven’t Let The Recession Keep You From Writing Up Your New Goals List, Have You?

Recession-Proof Your Bucket List Now

Bucket lists are big news these days and we’ve talked about them before, of course. But here’s one that begs to be shared with you. This time, instead of you coming up with your own personal list, you get to share your experiences with  others.  Think of  this as an opportunity to get to know your friends better.

Here’s how it works: Review all 100 items on the bucket list below and bold the ones you’ve already achieved – though undoubtedly you’ll feel that some of them are more like experiences than they are true lifetime achievements. Still, it’s fun to see how many you can check off!

Below — with brief annotations — is my bucket list. Thanks, to Rhea at “The Boomer Chronicles,” for sharing and getting us started. Feel free to share your results via a comment to the blog. I promise to comment back to each and every one!

Once you get done reading the list and contemplating how you would answer each point, it’s time for the real work to begin. That’s right – it’s time to develop your plan for what you want to personally achieve this year! After all, if you’re going to leave a legacy, it’s time to start! Here’s the bucket list:

I Have…

1. Started my own blog

2. Slept under the stars – while on a horseback pack trip. It was phenomenal

3. Played in a band

4. Visited Hawaii – no, but I’ve been to Alaska!

5. Watched a meteor shower

6. Given more than I can afford to charity – how could that be possible? The more you give, the more blessed you become…

7. Been to Disneyland/Disneyworld

8. Climbed a mountain

9. Held a praying mantis

10. Sung a solo

11. Bungee jumped

12. Visited Paris

13. Watched a lightning storm at sea

14. Taught myself an art from scratch – first there was macrame, then crochet and tie-dye. Hey, it was the 60s!

15. Adopted a child

16. Had food poisoning – no but I have experienced being seasick during a storm at sea. They might be analogous, not sure…

17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty – no but I’ve walked DOWN from the top of the Washington Monument and the Gateway Arch…

18. Grown my own vegetables – that was during my “Earth Mother” days, but I am seriously looking into doing it again this year…

19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France

20. Slept on an overnight train

21. Had a pillow fight

22. Hitchhiked – my mother told me not to, but I did. Thankfully I’ve never revealed this to her… Guess she’ll know now

23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill – what parent hasn’t been forced to take a sick day to care for a child?

24. Built a snow fort – oh and it was a dandy!

25. Held a lamb – no but my grandma took a shot of me as a toddler, holding a squirrel as I sat in my sandbox. My mother was petrified when she saw it

26. Gone skinny dipping – in Lake Mendota, at midnight, on a sultry June 21 – the longest day – after drinking a bottle of Boone’s Farm apple wine. Ahh, those UW college days…

27. Run a marathon

28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice

29. Seen a total eclipse – well, you can’t watch it DIRECTLY…

30. Watched a sunrise or sunset – both are worth waiting for…

31. Hit a home run – I’m a leftie batter and THAT experience was amazing!

32. Been on a cruise

33. Seen Niagara Falls in person

34. Visited the birthplace of my ancestors

35. Seen an Amish community

36. Taught myself a new language

37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied – for one brief shining moment…and then it was gone in a flash!

38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person

39. Gone rock climbing

40. Seen Michelangelo’s David

41. Sung karaoke – but not as a solo performance…

42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt

43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant

44. Visited Africa – no but it’s on my wish list, along with Antarctica

45. Walked on a beach by moonlight

46. Been transported in an ambulance

47. Had my portrait painted

48. Gone deep sea fishing

49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person

50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris

51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling – I was there with others who did, but I couldn’t get over the concept of spitting into my mask…

52. Kissed in the rain

53. Played in the mud

54. Gone to a drive-in theater

55. Been in a movie – no, but I’ve performed live onstage in front of an audience who paid to be in attendance…

56. Visited the Great Wall of China

57. Started a business

58. Taken a martial arts class

59. Visited Russia

60. Served at a soup kitchen

61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies – actually my cookie sales experience is what got me kicked out of Girl Scouts…

62. Gone whale watching

63. Got flowers for no reason

64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma

65. Gone sky diving – no, but I want to

66. Visited a Nazi concentration camp

67. Bounced a check

68. Flown in a helicopter – over Mendenhall Glacier in Alaska, while the the ethereal music of “Enya” reverberated into my headphones, courtesy of the pilot. It was a  transcendent experience – a day I will never forget!

69. Saved a favorite childhood toy – well, I saved “Sheepie,”one of my kid’s favorite stuffed animals, but only books remain from my childhood…

70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial

71. Eaten caviar

72. Pieced a quilt – not yet, but I have a sister-in-law who’s promised to teach me

73. Stood in Times Square – way back in the 60s, before they cleaned it up!

74. Toured the Everglades- sadly, I don’t think touring Florida’s Weeki Wachee Springs counts.  But I did go on a Cajun Swamp Tour in New Orleans that was pretty spectacular…

75. Been fired from a job – twice, though the second time was termed “closing your department,” but I wonder…

76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London

77. Broken a bone – technically I did bruise my tailbone in a skiing accident, but there’s nothing they can do for that. The subsequent ride in the Ski Patrol basket was pure embarrassment, however

78. Been on a speeding motorcycle – so far, only in my dreams

79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person

80. Published a book – lots of stuff I have written has been published, but my book’s not done yet…

81. Visited the Vatican – the most memorable thing for me, besides the Vatican Guards’ uniforms, was the catacombs…

82. Bought a brand new car- thankfully I’ve enjoyed this pleasure many times

83. Walked in Jerusalem – no but I have a sister-in-law who has…

84. Had my picture in the newspaper

85. Read the entire Bible

86. Visited the White House

87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating – no, but I helped my Dad clean ducks he’d shot. That was close enough for me…

88. Had chickenpox – even gave it to my brother, who was just a few weeks old. Sorry, Eric!

89. Saved someone’s life – well I had to give my daughter Syrup of Ipecac once, so I think that counts…

90. Sat on a jury – called twice, but never chosen…

91. Met someone famous – Most notably,  “The Guess Who” came to our house and showed my son how to play American Woman on his guitar. Each played it a bit differently. We have pictures

92. Joined a book club – many times

93. Lost a loved one

94. Had a baby – Did that twice – a long time ago

95. Seen the Alamo in person

96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake

97. Been involved in a law suit – oh yeah. Thankfully I’ve always won, even when I was the defendant

98. Owned a cell phone

99. Been stung by a bee

100. Ridden an elephant – not yet, but I have a friend who arranges this in Africa, so I’ll do it eventually

Back to You: What’s in Store For You Goals-wise, in 2009?

Your answer, you understand,  is deeply rooted in your ability to set and achieve goals. The fact is, recession or not, you have the ability to achieve WHATEVER you desire. Perhaps you seek …

  • Robust health
  • Financial freedom
  • Enduring relationships
  • Wonderful friendships
  • Fulfilling family activities
  • True happiness

Whatever your desires, any and all of them are possible once you take the first step by setting goals for achieving these experiences.

Of course, to do it right, you really need to have a variety of goals:

  • Short term goals (goals you can easily accomplish in one day to one year)
  • Mid-range goals (goals which you can attain in one to three years)
  • Long term goals (goals that will take you three to five years to realize)
  • Finally, of course, you still want to maintain your “bucket list” goals  (those big picture things you want to experience before you die)

When you set goals strategically, you start by planning the long term goals.  You then carefully break down each goal into specific steps  to develop your mid-range goals.

Then, for each mid-range goal, you  ask yourself what you need to do to accomplish each one.

Use those answers to create your short term goal list.  These become your “To-Do List” each day for the next year.

Your goals list should not be about only those things you want personally …

Of course, there’s no need to limit your goal-setting to things you’d like to accomplish for yourself…You can also work out what sort of legacy you’d like to leave:

  • For the world
  • For your business
  • For your family

You can create goals related to anything that you can affect as well as anything that you want to participate in. It’s all fair game.

For example, do you long for world peace? Don’t let the dream die because you think it’s more than you can accomplish. Instead:

  • Put world peace on your long term goals list
  • Then figure out a way to make a peaceful difference in the world via your mid-range goals
  • Start building toward peace immediately via your short term goals – for example, you could start by participating in other people’s peace-generating activities

Regardless of what decide to you do, remember this:  Albert Schweitzer once said, “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”

In short, if you want to achieve all of your goals in 2009 and beyond, your first step is to  make sure that you include everything that will make you happy on your goals list AND make sure that you are focused on doing something you love!

That’s why it is so important to follow your passion in building a business.  Unless you have a true passion for what you are doing, you will find it all but impossible to succeed.

When you follow your passion, you’ll not only experience  success — but happiness will be its twin.

What Sort of Success Will You Create in 2009 and Beyond?

The answer depends on the goals you set for yourself and the action you take to achieve them.

If you’ve never before used goal setting to help you achieve success and happiness, here’s a program created by the fabulous Gina Gaudio-Graves that is guaranteed to help you realize your goals.

Don’t let yourself down or your goals die. The legacy you want to leave is too important to the world.

Download this highly recommended goal-setting package from Gina Gaudio-Graves today at:

—> Miracle Motivational Package

Thanksgiving Note: Call it Praise, Validation or Affirmation, Have You Ever Tried Consistently Greeting Everyone You Meet With a Genuine Message of Appreciation?

November 27, 2008 by  
Filed under Anne Holmes, Blog, Spirit & Faith

Thanksgiving: Validating Abundance

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears” ~ Tony Robbins

It’s Almost Thanksgiving Day Here in the US, So It Seems Appropriate to Start By Thanking You For Being a Regular Reader of This Blog…

Besides being grateful for you, and offering you our thanks, we also say “Happy Thanksgiving” – which probably means more if you’re reading this post in the United States. If you live elsewhere, our thanks for your support are still genuine, of course, even if it’s not your “official” day for giving thanks!

We’re truly appreciative that so many of you have discovered and shared our BoomerLifestyle blog in the past few months – and clearly enjoy reading it. More than that, thanks to all of you for your participation, including the many comments you post. We love hearing from you!

By the Way, Speaking of Being Grateful, Have You Ever Noticed How Persistent God – or the Universe – Can Be?

Have you ever ignored or – just plain failed to recognize – a message sent to you…  Yet the message keeps coming at you – in different guises or from different sources – until you just have to pay attention?

Then, when you finally GET the message, you feel like you ought to knock yourself on the head, a la Homer Simpson? (“Doh!”)

Well, That Happened to Me Recently.

In the space of two days, the same message came to me from at least three different sources. But it wasn’t until the third message that I finally got the hint… When I did, the message was so timely and powerful, I just had to share it with you.

Actually the message is in the form of a sixteen-minute video. In fact, the length of the video is why I ignored it so long… Hopefully you won’t make the same mistake!

  • First, my RSS feed notified me that my friend Ken McArthur had posted a new message on his fantastic Impact Factor blog. I opened it up, but didn’t read it right away, as the headline indicated I’d need to be watching a video for 16 minutes and 23 seconds. Sadly, I felt I didn’t have that amount of time available just then. “Catch it later,” I thought, as I filed the message in my reading folder. (Ken’s stuff is always too good to delete!)
  • The  second tap on my shoulder came next day, when another good friend, John Cussons, picked up on  Ken’s post and wrote about the “The Validation Movie,” in his blog, IMovator in Internet Marketing. Well, I’d just talked to John for about an hour the night before; so, pleading press of work, I mentally said, “Thanks, John, I’ll have to catch this later,” and once more filed the post without viewing it…
  • The Universe finally got through to me yesterday morning, when a third friend, Carrie Tucker, sent me an email, mentioning how impactful she’d found John’s post, and advising me to take a look if I hadn’t already. “OK, OK. Thanks, Carrie.”  
  • The thing is,  Carrie’s an extremely busy woman, so a nagging little thought took root in my brain: “If Carrie thinks this post is so worthy of immediate attention that she’s sent me a personal email… Hmmm. Maybe I ought to clear the decks and watch it.” So I did.

 Bingo!

Here’s the video my three friends – and the Universe – were trying to send me. Please do take the time to watch it; it’s my Thanksgiving gift to you. Ken and John say it might make you cry. I don’t know about that. But I do know it will make you think, make you smile, and it just might change your life:

“Validation” Is Truly Validating 

Give this short movie a chance, and you’ll see that it is about more than “a fable about a guy who spends his life validating parking tickets.” It’s actually an inspirational story about the life-changing value of: 

  • Always looking for the good in people and situations, and showcasing the impact that has on the people you meet every day
  • Smiling at the world and giving off positive energy – which is huge, when you take the teachings of the Law of Attraction into consideration
  • Persistence in the face of thwarted love
  • Acting with abundance and living without fear

Since watching the movie, I’ve realized that the main character, Hugh Newman, is played by an actor named TJ Thyne, who’s appeared in several movies and dozens of current-day TV shows, including CSI, CSI: New York, Boston Legal, Nip/Tuck, Bones and NCIS. You’ll probably recognize him. Actually, he and his production company, Theatre Junkies, produced the movie, which has rightfully won over 20 awards at various film festivals. 

Clearly this is no fly-by-night, quickie homemade video; it’s a work of art.

It has what those in the film marketing business call good production values.  In fact, you’ll probably agree that it’s truly a message from the Universe, created for the benefit of all humankind.

So Here’s Your Charge: Enjoy the Video – And Take a Lesson From It!

That’s right: Give some thought to offering praise, appreciation, validation, kudos or compliments – whatever you want to call it – to everyone you meet for at least a month. (Hopefully by then this will become a habit.)

Just think what far-reaching impact that might have on our world.

And, in the process, just think of all the positive energy and abundance you’ll be creating merely by pausing a moment, to notice and give thanks for the small things – and the big ones – that come your way?

Appreciating everyone is actually pretty easy to do, once you put your mind to it:

For example, at Wal-Mart yesterday, my frustrated checker was attempting to cajole her balky hand-scanner into processing my case of caffeine-free Diet Pepsi. I’d already courteously left it in the cart so she wouldn’t have to haul it. (Grocery store cashiers get a daily workout just moving all those cases of beer, soda pop – and now, huge frozen Thanksgiving turkeys, off the counters and into our shopping carts.) 

Finally, she groaned as she hauled my case of soda up onto the conveyor, resorting to the belt-based scanner. As she did, she moaned about how sore this job makes her muscles at the end of the day.

Cognizant of my new goal to spread positive vibes everywhere I go, I happily acknowledged my recognition of the amazing and efficient job she and all the other checkers do as they process all us shoppers’ purchases.  And I followed that by pointing out how lucky she is, since the “free workout” her job offers her means she has no need to spend money on a gym membership!

She actually chuckled appreciatively and flexed her biceps!

What an easy way to brighten her day.

Really, it’s such a small thing to pause to say “thank you” to people you meet during the day and acknowledge them. Yet you’ll find your results are big. Not to mention that you’ll feel better, too!

Not Sure How Challenging it Might Be to Start Giving Thanks and Boosting Attitudes on a Daily Basis?

Even the most dedicated curmudgeon can learn to change her stripes and become consciously appreciative. I speak from personal experience. Sadly, there was a time in my life – somewhere in the early teens as I recall – when I actually taught myself to think negatively, because I loved the attention I received whenever I voiced cynical, jaded thoughts. Yikes! What is it about our society that would affirm that sort of negative behavior?

Thankfully I have reformed to the point where, a few years ago, one of my business associates labeled me “the most disgustingly positive person” he knew.  “Tell Anne the worst news,” he opined, “and she can find something good about it!” Woo Hoo! I’m delighted with that verdict!

Need some help learning how to turn your mental energies to the positive side?

My friend Scott Armstrong, one of America’s top success coaches, can help you. Recently he and his partner, Dr. Patricia A. Ross, PhD., created a fantastic book, Best Affirmations Workbook,” which is actually a 30-day “how-to” guide to actively creating the life you want through the active use of affirmations. It’s available as a PDF download as well as in audio format, which makes it really easy for you to use. I highly recommend it.  

In addition, they have created 21 sets of affirmations on crucial topics, such as:

  • Relationships
  • Parenting
  • Weight management and exercise
  • Self confidence
  • Mindset
  • Manifesting miracles
  • Health and wellness
  • Taking quantum leaps in achieving your personal goals

Best of all, with an eye toward helping you recession-proof your mind, they’re currently offering a special right now: You can “test-drive” the workbook for free. Or benefit from their monthly special offer.  

Hey – What have you got to lose? Nothing but those negative thoughts that are dragging you down, right?

Forget Economic Meltdown. The Far More Important Worry: “Is Your Life What You Hoped It Would Be?” Why Haven’t You Added “Recareering” to the Top of Your Dance Card?

October 13, 2008 by  
Filed under Anne Holmes, Blog, Relationships & Family, Spirit & Faith

Not Dancing Through Life - Try Recareering

You’ve probably received your share of those sappy email forwards people pass around to remind themselves that we still care about each other. I just got one that ended with a comment worthy of sharing with you:

‘Life may not be the party we hoped for… but while we are here we might as well dance!’

Hmmm. A Bit of Upbeat Advice to Live Life with Passion Amidst All the Teeth-gnashing Financial Angst in My Mailbox Lately.

It Immediately Reminds Me Of Another Great Dance Aphorism: “Dance with the one what brung ya,”

Combined, the two concepts offer great advice. Especially in these challenging times where you’re probably worried about the potential of economic meltdown.

Not sure how the old Southern cliche and the new “dancing/live life with passion” philosophy apply you at this point in your life? Here’s a story to illustrate it for you:

My friend Bob is frustrated with his current employment situation as a pressman for a major newspaper organization, and rightfully worried that he might lose his job in the next round of layoffs.

In thinking about his employment alternatives, he’s realized that the entire newspaper industry is in rough shape, so finding a new job as a pressman is going to be tough.

Meanwhile, in casting about for alternative employment opportunity options, he’s considering what many Baby Boomer-aged workers are dreaming about: changing careers. In his case, Bob doesn’t want to make as drastic a change as some people you may know. For example:

  • He doesn’t want to convert himself from CPA to restaurateur
  • Or from public relations account executive to blues guitarist
  • Nor does he dream of making a transition from office administrator to yoga or Pilates instructor
  • He’s not even thinking of making a switch from lawyering to growing and selling organic vegetables

All passion-oriented career changes others have tried…

No, Bob’s inspiration is a switch that will still involve him using his mechanical skills. He just wants to take them in a new direction. He’s been talking with his brother-in-law about a new, “green” technology in the construction industry that they both feel sure is about to take off – installing geothermal pumps.

A change that will have him working outdoors instead of inside, which he will enjoy. And one that will require extensive re-training.

It’s That Last Part That is Concerning Him.

As he explained his dilemma, he outlined the opportunity: “Geothermal heat pumps are similar to your regular heat pumps, except they use the ground instead of outside air to give you your heating, your air conditioning, even hot water. Since they use the earth’s own heat, they are among the most efficient and comfortable heating and cooling technologies around. Damn cool engineering.”

In other words, this is a “green” technology, and these days, just about everything green is good.

As Bob talked further, his zeal and enthusiasm – or passion – for the new technology became apparent. “These pumps are so energy efficient, I know there’s gonna be a TON of guys like you and me – homeowners looking to save money and energy – who are going to want to install them. Especially since it seems like our home energy costs are going to just keep going through the roof.”

Bottom line as Bob sees it:

  • If he earns this new certification, he believes his employment future will be secure
  • Instead of plying his superb mechanical skills working with an aging technology – where future employment is iffy – he’ll be positioned on the leading edge of a new one
  • He’s feeling huge enthusiasm, or passion, for learning more about the potential new work, which excites him, and makes it worth getting up in the morning
  • And he’s sure he’d be making some real good (and reliable) money going forward…

There’s just one thing troubling him: He’d have to become trained and certified for the new work, and the certification will take him four years to achieve.

His Biggest Questions as He Contemplates This Transition: Can His Family Financially Handle His Time in School, AND Is the Significant Investment of His Time and Money – At This Time in His Life – Likely to be Worth It?

  • If he went back to school to learn this promising new trade, he would be 50 years old when he finished.
  • My answer: “How old will you be in four years if you don’t go to school?”
  • Of course Bob got the point: He’d still be 50 years old
  • And, he realizes that if he doesn’t grab the opportunity to get new training now, there’s a big chance he’ll be even closer to unemployment in the future

In Other Words: Bob Would be Wise to Consider the Possibilities; Not Just Go for a “Knee-Jerk” Reaction Which Lets Age Keep Him From Investing Into An Enjoyable New Work Opportunity.

Especially since, if Bob gets into doing something he really loves and has a passion for, there are major life benefits.

First, instead of constantly running an employment treadmill, staying in a job in which he’s continually stressed out over the looming potential for unemployment, he’ll have developed new and desirable skills. Not to mention that everything else about his life will be so much more enjoyable once he’s spending his working hours doing something he enjoys!

  • He’ll have a passion for his work, which is really important.
  • He’ll benefit from a much stronger opportunity to be successful in his work
  • Not to mention that his stress levels will be lower, making for a much more enjoyable homelife, too

Second, fifty just isn’t that old anymore. At age 50, Bob – or you, if you were in his shoes –  still has 15 years of work/employment ahead of him before he reaches the traditional retirement age of 65 – plenty of time to make it worthwhile to change his career.

Besides which, the reality is, most Baby Boomers are going to work long past the old traditional retirement age of 65, so at 50 you’re realistically talking about having MORE than 15 working years ahead of you.

Third, despite an economy in recession, and Bob’s very real concern for personal economic meltdown if he leaves his current job, the opportunities for a midlife career change have never been better. In fact, a variety of factors currently work in favor of midlife career change, including:

  • Changing attitudes toward older workers
  • Rising demand for workplace experience
  • More powerful job-search resources
  • Employers’ pending recognition that they can’t afford to lose older workers. This is especially apparent in fields the fields of nursing, hospitality and utilities. Bob’s career change would factor into the latter arena.

So How Can Bob Make This Work? Especially Because He Wants to Avoid Financial Hardship While He Gets Things Going?

Despite all the opportunity, “recareering” – changing careers in midlife – can involve difficult and potentially life-altering decisions. Especially if going back to  school forces an overhaul of your lifestyle or your family’s standard of living.

Bob clearly realizes that unless he comes up with a corrective plan in advance, in the short-term, his opportunity has the potential to:

  • Damage his family life and maybe even cost him his friends
  • Generate a lot of internal stress
  • Significantly reduce the amount of time he has to relax and socialize
  • Negatively impact his finances – in the short term

A Career Coach or Counselor Can Show You How, With Planning, All of These Negatives Can be Controlled.

For example, a career counselor would help Bob:

  • Figure out his passion, if we weren’t yet sure of it; so he could be sure he was moving in the right direction.
  • Advise Bob that he needs to make sure his family supports his decision
  • Help him work out a strategy to make sure he can pay his bills while he’s getting refocused. (For example, Bob might have an option to take a buyout from his newspaper job, and live off some of his 401K savings for the short-term)
  • Make sure his motivation to change is properly focused

Bottom Line: Since You’re Going to Be Working A Couple More Decades Anyway, Why Shouldn’t You Do Work You Enjoy – Something That Gives You the Opportunity to “Dance” a Bit Every Day?

And in terms of recareering and the concept of dancing with the one “what brung ya,” I believe that means you need to look into how you can:

  • Develop work from a hobby
  • Create income from something for which you have passion.*
  • Incorporate skills you have, enjoy and in which you excel

In Bob’s case, those are his mechanical skills and his passion for helping people save money through use of a “green” technology.

What Are YOU Passionate About? What Makes YOU Dance? (And Are You Dancing Enough?)

*Not sure whether or not you actually have a passion for anything? Join the crowd. A lot of people are confused right now about how to live a life with passion. Yet making time to dance is so important.

This book, The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose, will really help you figure it out.  The book is by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood. Here are a few great quotes that explain how powerful it is:

  • “The simplest, clearest way to get started on knowing what you want—by getting clear on who you are.”
    —T. Harv Eker, author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind
  • “It’s simple, it’s easy, and it’s profound.”
    —Jack Canfield, cocreator of the #1 New York Times bestselling series, Chicken Soup for the Soul
  • “[A] clear, simple, and effective method to help you identify your core passions so you can create the fulfilling life you deserve.”
    —John Gray, Ph.D., #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Now, go forth and dance with passion!

Baby Boomers Worry: Is It Possible to Keep an Attitude of Gratitude Amidst Hurricanes, Bank Failures, Foreclosures, Rising Unemployment, Lying Politicians and a Plunging Dow?

September 19, 2008 by  
Filed under Anne Holmes, Blog, Spirit & Faith

Keep and Attitude of Gratitude

As you experience the media these days you are no doubt overwhelmed with stories of doom, gloom, horror and despair.

As one normally upbeat and independent Boomer woman recently observed, chain-smoking nervously: I’m worried. All I have to my name is my home, my retirement fund and social security. If things keep going the way they are, I’ll have to take in a roommate, or marry my boyfriend, just to survive.”

With comments like these being expressed daily, it’s no wonder the Pew Research Center reported that America’s Baby Boomers “are in a collective funk.”

The Pew Report Went on to Note That Boomers See Trouble Ahead and Less Progress Over Time…

Specifically their June 28th report said:

Not only do boomers give their overall quality of life a lower rating than adults in other generations, they also are more likely to worry that their incomes won’t keep up with inflation — this despite the fact that boomers enjoy the highest incomes of any age group.

More so than those in other generations, boomers believe it is harder to get ahead now than it was 10 years ago. And they are less apt than others to say their standard of living exceeds the one their parents had when their parents were the age they are now.

Sadly, that report was written before more recent calamitous events, which doubtless have only added to Boomer’s collective angst.

But Is An Attitude of Gratitude Still Realistic, or Even Possible?

The answer, thankfully, is “Emphatically YES!”

  • As evidence, just witness this blog post from Scott W., a gay artist and recovering alcoholic from Texas, who is living through Hurricane Ike with an Attitude of Gratitude.
    • Read his thoughts, and you see proof that you don’t have to be a self help guru, like Deepak Chopra, Joe Vitale, or Jack Canfield to realize the grace that comes from living with an attitude of abundance and positivity. And that gratitude is still possible in today’s world.
    • As Scott W. quotes from Pocket Sponsor:
    • Whatever vexes you currently, imagine for a moment what could make it worse. What can make it worse than that? Again. Imagine it, feel it, and come back to now. If you can make it worse, then you can make it better. Remember this: you are not helpless before your feelings.
  • Alternately, take a look at this post on the power of having an attitude of gratitude during illness. Here, blogger Kimberly Fabrizio reminds us of the value of keeping a gratitude journal (more on that below), where you can keep track of the little things you’re thankful for, even if you’re fighting a life altering illness like multiple sclerosis, as she is. Kimberly reminds you:
    • “When I talk about ‘gratitude’ here, I’m referencing thankfulness for the little things– those times in the day where you just stop and think, ‘Hmmmm… I’m living a great life.’ Sometimes we actually have to watch closely to catch those moments. Other times, those moments are highly noticeable; they jump right out at us.”

Both authors offer you wisdom and hope from their own dark times. Wise words to hold close to your heart.

Here’s More Proof You Can Enjoy An Attitude of Gratitude During These Most Challenging Times of Your Life…

If you want to discover more hopeful stories about people who have triumphed despite overwhelming challenges; you want to read  John Castagnini‘s book (there’s a website, too) Attitude of Gratitude. It’s a series of hopeful stories shared by people who have learned to celebrate their gratefulness for the most painful things which have happened to them, including death of a loved one, cancer, rape, and financial ruin. Can you imagine actually being grateful for any of these?

This is a book that transforms the human experience! In it, you have the opportunity to meet ordinary people and find out how they not only overcame life’s greatest challenges, they lived to become thankful for them. If you’re down and troubled by the world today:

  • If your home has been destroyed by flood, hurricane or tornado, this book shows you there is hope.
  • If you’ve lost your job or your life savings, there is hope.
  • If your heart has been broken and seems impossible to mend, there is hope.
  • If darkness seems to surround you, there is hope.
  • If no one seems to understand you or your pain, there is hope.

The stories in this book are truly amazing. Death, dysfunction and divorce abound and yet the authors – people just like you – triumphed. Not only did they transcend these tragedies, but they actually learned from them and wouldn’t change a thing. They found a greater self waiting on the other side of pain. You can too.

Grab this book now.

Sit down and read any of the one stories in it. You’ll instantly discover why some have called “Thank God I” the most significant contribution to the Spirit of Humanity in centuries. Most importantly, discover how you can be a part of it via the website! A brighter, loving, more inspired life in gratitude awaits you.

Where Were You When You First Learned About the Importance of Having An Attitude of Gratitude? Do You Remember?

I was Probably About Two Years Old When I Was First Exposed, Though As You’ll See, That First Lesson was Somewhat Lost on Me!

As I recall, it went like this:

I’d been visiting my grandmother in Madison, Wisconsin for a couple of weeks, and she’d become exasperated with my toddler behavior, though I don’t recall the specific details.

What I do remember is that she sat me up on her kitchen counter, my tiny two year old legs dangling, stared me down, and advised me that I was going to have to stay there until I’d thought about what a lucky girl I really was, and provided her with three things I was grateful for…

Well, never having heard the term, nor even being aware of the concepts of “luck” or “luckiness,” I was totally stumped. It looked like an endless day was looming ahead of me as I’d be stuck sitting up there on the counter, instead of outside playing in my sandbox

Thankfully Grandma took pity on me, and, good Christian woman that she was, tried to teach me the importance of being thankful for what we have. In the end, she even provided me with my ticket off the counter, suggesting three things for which she felt I ought to be appreciative:

  • “It’s a beautiful day.”
  • “The sun is shining.”
  • “I’m at grandma’s house.”

Anxious to Gain My Freedom From the Countertop, I Agreed These were “Good Things,” Dutifully Repeated the Mantra – And Regained Solid Ground!

Then Disaster Struck My Carefree Life: My Mother Had Been Alerted to My Newly Acquired Lesson:

Just a few of weeks later, back home in Michigan, and equally frustrated with my “terrible twos” behavior, my mother brought up the “gratitude” topic once again.

Things Went a Bit Differently This Time:

  • Mom unceremoniously stuffed my butt in a chair and pushed it into a corner, facing the wall.
  • She told me I had to stay there
  • Again I was stuck until I came up with – you got it – those darn three things I was grateful for.

WooHoo!

I was confident. This was gonna be a cinch! Freedom from the punishment chair would soon be mine… all I had to do was remember what Grandma taught me!

So I dug back into the depths of my unschooled memory for the magic words, and carefully and triumphantly repeated them to her, word for word, exactly as I had been trained:

  • Slowly and tentatively I advised my mother of my first reason for having gratitude: “It’s a beautiful day.”
  • Then, gaining more confidence: “The sun is shining.”
  • Finally, success almost at hand, and taking a deep sigh of relief, the last one came out all in a rush: “And-I’m-at-grandma’s-house.”

How Proud I was! Success was Mine! I Had Pulled That Magic Formula from the Deepest Recesses of My Brain!!

So I was Completely Puzzled When the Look on My Mother’s Face Turned from Parental Pleasure to Confusion – And Then Convulsed into Laughter.

  • What was wrong?
  • I’d had been a “good girl”
  • I done what she’d asked
  • Darn it! I’d supplied the magic words. I’d told her what I was grateful for!

Thankfully, These Days, I’m Much More Aware of the Concept of Gratitude. And Why I am Grateful.

But I have to admit that a full half century later, whenever I hear anyone comment, “It’s a beautiful day, look how beautifully the sun is shining,” my mind automatically fills in the third part of the mystic triad: “And I’m at Grandma’s house.”

Then I laugh inside, and thank my mother and grandmother for their early efforts at teaching me the importance of maintaining an attitude of gratitude!

Do You Have an Attitude of Gratitude? How Do YOU Prefer to Express It?

If you haven’t been practicing an attitude of gratitude, take a note from my grandmother, and start by looking for the little things that you’re grateful for, as your day progresses. Then the big things will fall into place by themselves

  • Make a habit of looking for the positive angle in everything that happens to you. View obstacles as opportunities for you to appreciate.
  • Make mental notes throughout the day of the opportunities for gratitude which you discover. Notice how feeling gratitude actually shifts your mindset to the positive.
  • Focus on the wonderful things in life to attract similar encounters in the course of the day.
  • Use positive energy as a magnet to draw even more positive energy.

You’ll Want to Help Yourself Celebrate and Remember These Moments By Writing Them Down in Your Gratitude Journal.

A gratitude journal is a fantastic way to consciously call attention to the things for which you’re thankful, on a daily basis.
By focusing on gratitude, you become aware of these things, you shift your thinking to the positive and you gain a whole new outlook on life.
You can keep the gratitude journal in just about any format. Most people write theirs down on paper or online, but there’s no reason you can’t keep an audio or video journal. Here are a couple of easy ways to keep a gratitude journal:
  • The Gratitude Tracker is a free downloadable tool that resides on your computer. It’s easy to use, and a gift to the online world from Terrie Wurzbacher of Getting Unstuck, LLC. She believes it is the only Gratitude Journal with its own integrated sticky note program. The cool part about this tool is that whatever you write on your sticky note is automatically transferred to your journal. This means you can quickly upload thoughts of gratitude as they come to you, as long as you are online. Once installed, the sticky note pops up every time you open your browser, reminding you to practice an attitude of gratitude on a daily basis.
  • ButterBeeHappy is a free happiness journaling website launched early this year and dedicated to “pollinating populations with Happiness.” Developed based on Harvard research, it promises users that they will be happier by simply jotting down five happy thoughts a day.ButterBeeHappy.com doesn’t claim to fix all problems, but our users do claim to feel happier after keeping a journal of gratitude and happy thoughts,” says John Brooks Pounders, 22, a student at the University of Alabama and founder of ButterBeeHappy.com.The internet doesn’t have that many truly happy places for people to go to. I am trying to change this, five happy thoughts at a time.”
  • Create Your Own Journal: Start with a blank notebook or journal which you keep by your bed along with your writing tool of preference, so that it’s easy for you to write in it nightly. Why use this instead of the online tools or a pretty book with five lines a day? Well, as you get going with journaling, you’ll find that the five daily items you are grateful for become, seven, ten – even 20. Gratitude journaling is so transformational that once you get into the habit you find that you become grateful for everything! Which means you need more space to write – an actual blank book journal or notebook.  Look for:
    • spiral-bound notebook that opens flat for ease in writing works well, as does a three ring binder.
    • Lined or unlined paper, of any size or color, according to your preference.
    • Space to personalize your gratitude journal with drawings, clippings, photos, quotes or verses you find in magazines, like you might do with a vision board

How Do You Begin Writing Your Gratitude Journal?

It’s best to keep it simple, so you actually make a habit of doing it. Try this:

  • Write down five things you’re grateful for just before you climb into bed.
  • To get your thoughts rolling, review your day and include anything – however small or great – that you realize was a source of gratitude for you that day.
  • These sources might be as simple as the memory of an inviting aroma that came from a bakery you walked past, the colors of the sunset, a kind word or smile from a stranger, even a song you heard on the radio.
  • Make sure your list is personal.
  • Write just a few words about each of the five benefits or blessings.
  • You may be brief at first, but feel free to increase the length of your posts as time progresses.

Remember, If You Can’t Think of Anything Positive to Write, Here’s Help:

Begin by reading John Castagnini’s inspirational book “Thank God I…,” or if you’re in a hurry to get your grateful thoughts down on paper, just start by writing down my original mantra:

  • “It’s a beautiful day.”
  • “The sun is shining.”
  • I’m at grandma’s house.”

After you stop chuckling about “grandma’s house,” you’re sure to come up with many things you’re personally grateful for!

Try it and see!

Powerful Free Visualization Tool: Who Else Wants To Know How To Successfully Harness the Law of Attraction?

September 3, 2008 by  
Filed under Anne Holmes, Blog, Spirit & Faith

Remember When You Were A Kid: Everything Seemed Possible and You Believed That When You Grew Up, You Would Be Able to Achieve Anything You Wanted? Well, It’s Not Too Late…

In the last year, there’s been a lot of talk about a movie called “The Secret,” and how it trains you to use the Law of Attraction to achieve your goals. If you’ve heard much about the “LOA,” you know it involves using visualization techniques to cause a desired result to “manifest” itself.  Maybe you’ve thought about giving visualizion a try, just to see what all the hype was about?  Perhaps you’ve even tried it. If it worked, likely you’re a convert; but if it didn’t work, you probably decided it was all sort of “airy fairy” stuff.  Well, Ryan Higgins from Australia was once in your shoes, but no more. Here’s how he tells it:

  • “I was packing boxes in a factory to make my living. I had to get up at 4 a.m. every morning to drive an hour to a job I hated.”
  • “I felt like a prisoner, chained to that horrible job every day for seven years. I was always there, because I couldn’t afford even a few days off.”
  • “No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t seem to earn more than just enough to scrape by.
  • Every time I paid a bill or bought groceries, I was sweating it out, afraid my credit card would be declined.
  • I wanted so much more, but wishing didn’t pay the bills.”

No shirker, Ryan kept working trying to get to a place where he enjoyed life and had the chance to live the life of his dreams:

Perhaps, like Ryan, you’ve found visualization too confusing or too difficult to do.  Or, in a sort of a self-fulfilling cycle, perhaps you’ve even let a challenge with implementing visualization further impede your visualization process because you quit believing the process will work — and finally ended up thinking, “why bother?” As Ryan explains it:

  • “I tried my hardest to think positively, even repeating affirmations to myself out loud every day.
  • “I think my ‘box packing’ coworkers thought I was nuts!
  • “They weren’t too far wrong, I felt like I was going crazy in that place.”

All of which caused Ryan to feel like a failure, a loser. Sometimes he says he even felt like giving up. Maybe you’ve sometimes felt that way too.

Sadly, Many People Are Visualization-Challenged. Are You?

Hopefully not, because visualization is absolutely essential to realizing your dreams. Most likely, if you have trouble visualizing, it’s because, like Ryan, you haven’t figured out how to keep focusing your mind on your desired outcome:

  • Long enough
  • Strongly enough, or
  • Consistently enough

Once you understand power of the Law of Attraction, you realize that the only way you will ever achieve anything is by “seeing” where you want to go in crystal clear detail. And it’s the consistent “seeing” that sets off a cosmic “chain reaction” and brings your dreams to life. Once this happens, you recognize that:

  • NOBODY becomes wealthy “Accidentally.”
  • Nor do they graduate from college, meet their soulmate or acquire the job of their dreams “Purely by Chance.”

It doesn’t matter how old or young you are, or how big your dreams are: When you mentally “lock in” on an actual picture of your ideal life, you can make anything happen. The movie The Secret makes this abundantly clear, as does this free visualization tool which is edited from clips of that movie.

Happily, Ryan’s Story Has a Happy Ending… Better Yet, He’s Got One For You: A FREE Instantly Downloadable Visualization Tool

Here’s how he continues with his amazing story:

  • “One day I stumbled onto something when I was talking with a friend, who showed me a quote by Napoleon Hill, the author of “Think and Grow Rich”… ‘Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.’
  • “Suddenly it was like everything fell into place, and I knew exactly what was missing!
  • “That one sentence written almost 70-years ago held the secret. I was sure of it. Because here’s what I realized…
  • “Achieving What You Want is EASY when you stop struggling and tap into your Automatic Success Magnet. “

You May Think of Ryan’s New Tool as A “Visualization Board on Steriods,” But He Simply Calls His Product “Mind Movies.”

As you recall, Ryan had been captivated by Napoleon Hill’s famous quote, “Anything the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” He decided to create a vision board using images depicting what he envisioned as his perfect life, which he assembled into a 3 minute slideshow/movie and set to music. Once he’d created his movie, he watched it twice a day – every morning and night – while he continued working at his frustrating dead-end factory job. Watching the movie finally allowed Ryan to focus and actually SEE his dream.

  • So he was finally able to take his dreams from the abstract or “wish” state and into reality in an amazingly short period of time.
  • And these days, with the practice he’s acquired, he’s regularly able to manifest his dreams even faster.

Ryan discovered that the amount of emotion he was able to attach to his desire, combined with the strength of his belief systems aligned with his desire, determined how quickly he was able to see reality rearranging to fit his desire. And this will work for you, too, because: A Mind Movie helps you put everything together—the desire, how you describe it, what it looks like, what it feels like, and the inspiring music align the desire with your deepest, strongest feelings and emotions.

Amazingly, Just 90 Days After He Began Using His Mind Movie, Ryan Achieved Everything He’d Built Into the Movie:

And today, a few Mind Movies later, he is:

  • Debt-free and able to buy the home of his dreams
  • Freed of his J.O.B.
  • Traveling the world, visiting wonderful vacation spots
  • Married to the woman of his dreams
  • Exercizing, eating right and enjoying a healthy body complete with enviable “6-pack abs”

NOW: In a gesture of “paying it forward,” Ryan has created Six Free Mind Movies

Which he’s offering to you — and the world — at no charge. Yes, that’s right! Ryan has created freely downloadable mind movies on the most popular topics for which people seek help:

  • Health
  • Spirituality
  • Money
  • Friends & Family
  • Attracting a woman
  • Attracting a man

Each one features wonderful photos, effective affirmations and powerfully upbeat music. So, follow my lead by downloading these free mind movies now, and see for yourself!

But Here’s Where It Gets Even Better!

The free Mind Movies are fantastic. Watch them twice a day and you’ll see the Universe align for you, just as he did. But what if you’d like a more personalized movie? You know, one made just for you, custom-made with your own personal photos, your own personalized affirmations and the music track of your choice. You can have that, too.

Share Your Personal Visualization Experience And You Might Even Win $5,000!

Yes, because you demanded it, Ryan went on to create the best visualization tool ever! Now, your success with the Law of Attraction will come even faster and easier because it is perfectly designed just for YOU!

  • YOU choose the images that mean the most to you.
  • YOU define the size and shape of the life you want.
  • YOU create your personal Mind Movie
  • YOU begin watching it for a few minutes several times a day.
  • YOU’LL want to watch it, because it’s fun and inspiring.

And when you do, you’ll feel so energized and uplifted, you’ll think you have just uncorked your personal Genie-in-a-Bottle, who grants your every desire. Almost like magic, your heart’s desires become an inspiring movie–the most powerful visualization you could possibly achieve is literally right at your fingertips.

You Activate The Law Of Attraction Effortlessly!

You “dream it, and achieve it;” because your dreams and desires are automatically imprinted on your subconscious every time you sit down at your computer. And that, my friend, is how fast your life can change. Struggle and frustration dissolve, replaced by joy and abundance. Are you getting the picture here? You should be. Because this is how easily…

You Become The Designer Of Your Destiny When You Kick the Law of Attraction into Overdrive

Ryan’s personalized Mind Movie Creation Kit is fantastic. It includes everything you need to create your own fabulous Mind Movie:

  • 6 Disc boxed set delivered to your door
  • Immediate access to his tutorials and members area
  • Neuro-Linguistic essentials for programming your subconscious
  • A FREE 2-month subscription to the “Subliminal Success Accelerator”
  • Suitable for any PC or MAC OS 8 and above
  • Loads of bonuses from legends like The Secret’s Joe Vitale
  • Not to mention a  $5,000 contest, which will be won by the person whose Mind Movie is the most-watched on YouTube…

But there’s so much more, I urge you to let Ryan tell you about this himself!

Here’s the promise he makes:

“What I have to share with you today could be the turning point in your life that will finally open the door to achieving everything you’ve always wanted…and I do mean EVERYTHING. “In fact, I’m going to show you how starting today, you can be on your way to working less, accomplishing more, and enjoying every precious minute of your life…all while making more money than ever before. “I know this is true, because it’s already worked for me, and for thousands of others too.

“Remember, It’s Not Too Late. The beautiful thing about learning how to achieve your goals through visualization is that you can do this right now.” You can start turning your life around today.

  • No matter what you’ve been through
  • No matter how old you are
  • No matter how impossible it may seem right now

So, What Are You Waiting For? Start by downloading the free mind movies and see for yourself! If you’re as impressed as I was, you’ll quickly upgrade to the Mind Movie Creation Kit and create your own custom-made Mind Movies for the ultimate in visualization of your goals.