Thanksgiving Note: Call it Praise, Validation or Affirmation, Have You Ever Tried Consistently Greeting Everyone You Meet With a Genuine Message of Appreciation?

November 27, 2008 by  
Filed under Anne Holmes, Blog, Spirit & Faith

Thanksgiving: Validating Abundance

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears” ~ Tony Robbins

It’s Almost Thanksgiving Day Here in the US, So It Seems Appropriate to Start By Thanking You For Being a Regular Reader of This Blog…

Besides being grateful for you, and offering you our thanks, we also say “Happy Thanksgiving” – which probably means more if you’re reading this post in the United States. If you live elsewhere, our thanks for your support are still genuine, of course, even if it’s not your “official” day for giving thanks!

We’re truly appreciative that so many of you have discovered and shared our BoomerLifestyle blog in the past few months – and clearly enjoy reading it. More than that, thanks to all of you for your participation, including the many comments you post. We love hearing from you!

By the Way, Speaking of Being Grateful, Have You Ever Noticed How Persistent God – or the Universe – Can Be?

Have you ever ignored or – just plain failed to recognize – a message sent to you…  Yet the message keeps coming at you – in different guises or from different sources – until you just have to pay attention?

Then, when you finally GET the message, you feel like you ought to knock yourself on the head, a la Homer Simpson? (“Doh!”)

Well, That Happened to Me Recently.

In the space of two days, the same message came to me from at least three different sources. But it wasn’t until the third message that I finally got the hint… When I did, the message was so timely and powerful, I just had to share it with you.

Actually the message is in the form of a sixteen-minute video. In fact, the length of the video is why I ignored it so long… Hopefully you won’t make the same mistake!

  • First, my RSS feed notified me that my friend Ken McArthur had posted a new message on his fantastic Impact Factor blog. I opened it up, but didn’t read it right away, as the headline indicated I’d need to be watching a video for 16 minutes and 23 seconds. Sadly, I felt I didn’t have that amount of time available just then. “Catch it later,” I thought, as I filed the message in my reading folder. (Ken’s stuff is always too good to delete!)
  • The  second tap on my shoulder came next day, when another good friend, John Cussons, picked up on  Ken’s post and wrote about the “The Validation Movie,” in his blog, IMovator in Internet Marketing. Well, I’d just talked to John for about an hour the night before; so, pleading press of work, I mentally said, “Thanks, John, I’ll have to catch this later,” and once more filed the post without viewing it…
  • The Universe finally got through to me yesterday morning, when a third friend, Carrie Tucker, sent me an email, mentioning how impactful she’d found John’s post, and advising me to take a look if I hadn’t already. “OK, OK. Thanks, Carrie.”  
  • The thing is,  Carrie’s an extremely busy woman, so a nagging little thought took root in my brain: “If Carrie thinks this post is so worthy of immediate attention that she’s sent me a personal email… Hmmm. Maybe I ought to clear the decks and watch it.” So I did.


Here’s the video my three friends – and the Universe – were trying to send me. Please do take the time to watch it; it’s my Thanksgiving gift to you. Ken and John say it might make you cry. I don’t know about that. But I do know it will make you think, make you smile, and it just might change your life:

“Validation” Is Truly Validating 

Give this short movie a chance, and you’ll see that it is about more than “a fable about a guy who spends his life validating parking tickets.” It’s actually an inspirational story about the life-changing value of: 

  • Always looking for the good in people and situations, and showcasing the impact that has on the people you meet every day
  • Smiling at the world and giving off positive energy – which is huge, when you take the teachings of the Law of Attraction into consideration
  • Persistence in the face of thwarted love
  • Acting with abundance and living without fear

Since watching the movie, I’ve realized that the main character, Hugh Newman, is played by an actor named TJ Thyne, who’s appeared in several movies and dozens of current-day TV shows, including CSI, CSI: New York, Boston Legal, Nip/Tuck, Bones and NCIS. You’ll probably recognize him. Actually, he and his production company, Theatre Junkies, produced the movie, which has rightfully won over 20 awards at various film festivals. 

Clearly this is no fly-by-night, quickie homemade video; it’s a work of art.

It has what those in the film marketing business call good production values.  In fact, you’ll probably agree that it’s truly a message from the Universe, created for the benefit of all humankind.

So Here’s Your Charge: Enjoy the Video – And Take a Lesson From It!

That’s right: Give some thought to offering praise, appreciation, validation, kudos or compliments – whatever you want to call it – to everyone you meet for at least a month. (Hopefully by then this will become a habit.)

Just think what far-reaching impact that might have on our world.

And, in the process, just think of all the positive energy and abundance you’ll be creating merely by pausing a moment, to notice and give thanks for the small things – and the big ones – that come your way?

Appreciating everyone is actually pretty easy to do, once you put your mind to it:

For example, at Wal-Mart yesterday, my frustrated checker was attempting to cajole her balky hand-scanner into processing my case of caffeine-free Diet Pepsi. I’d already courteously left it in the cart so she wouldn’t have to haul it. (Grocery store cashiers get a daily workout just moving all those cases of beer, soda pop – and now, huge frozen Thanksgiving turkeys, off the counters and into our shopping carts.) 

Finally, she groaned as she hauled my case of soda up onto the conveyor, resorting to the belt-based scanner. As she did, she moaned about how sore this job makes her muscles at the end of the day.

Cognizant of my new goal to spread positive vibes everywhere I go, I happily acknowledged my recognition of the amazing and efficient job she and all the other checkers do as they process all us shoppers’ purchases.  And I followed that by pointing out how lucky she is, since the “free workout” her job offers her means she has no need to spend money on a gym membership!

She actually chuckled appreciatively and flexed her biceps!

What an easy way to brighten her day.

Really, it’s such a small thing to pause to say “thank you” to people you meet during the day and acknowledge them. Yet you’ll find your results are big. Not to mention that you’ll feel better, too!

Not Sure How Challenging it Might Be to Start Giving Thanks and Boosting Attitudes on a Daily Basis?

Even the most dedicated curmudgeon can learn to change her stripes and become consciously appreciative. I speak from personal experience. Sadly, there was a time in my life – somewhere in the early teens as I recall – when I actually taught myself to think negatively, because I loved the attention I received whenever I voiced cynical, jaded thoughts. Yikes! What is it about our society that would affirm that sort of negative behavior?

Thankfully I have reformed to the point where, a few years ago, one of my business associates labeled me “the most disgustingly positive person” he knew.  “Tell Anne the worst news,” he opined, “and she can find something good about it!” Woo Hoo! I’m delighted with that verdict!

Need some help learning how to turn your mental energies to the positive side?

My friend Scott Armstrong, one of America’s top success coaches, can help you. Recently he and his partner, Dr. Patricia A. Ross, PhD., created a fantastic book, Best Affirmations Workbook,” which is actually a 30-day “how-to” guide to actively creating the life you want through the active use of affirmations. It’s available as a PDF download as well as in audio format, which makes it really easy for you to use. I highly recommend it.  

In addition, they have created 21 sets of affirmations on crucial topics, such as:

  • Relationships
  • Parenting
  • Weight management and exercise
  • Self confidence
  • Mindset
  • Manifesting miracles
  • Health and wellness
  • Taking quantum leaps in achieving your personal goals

Best of all, with an eye toward helping you recession-proof your mind, they’re currently offering a special right now: You can “test-drive” the workbook for free. Or benefit from their monthly special offer.  

Hey – What have you got to lose? Nothing but those negative thoughts that are dragging you down, right?


8 Responses to “Thanksgiving Note: Call it Praise, Validation or Affirmation, Have You Ever Tried Consistently Greeting Everyone You Meet With a Genuine Message of Appreciation?”

  1. Carrie Tucker on November 27th, 2008 11:24 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving to both of you!

    It was so nice to track down this incoming link and find this wonderful post. Your infectious positivity has had me doing this for months! I blame you, in part at least, for my own disgusting positivity! hahaha

    Thanks for all the detail about the film maker. As usual, you are as informed as you are positive! Did you check out Rent a Person, filmed a couple years ago, very funny and worth while as well.

    Many blessings,

  2. Anne Holmes on November 28th, 2008 12:28 am


    Thanks for your kind words, and Happy Thanksgiving to you, too!

    Yes, I’ve checked out “Rent a Person” on your recommendation. Anyone else reading this can check it out here:

    On a note of trivia for that movie, James Haven, who stars in the movie musical short is actually Angeline Jolie’s brother!! Who knew she even had one?

    Thanks for taking time to comment on this post. It’s a topic that’s really near and dear to my heart…


  3. Ronda Del Boccio, The Story Lady on November 28th, 2008 1:21 pm

    WOW Anne! This is a powerful movie! Yeah…I saw Ken’s post but have been so busy serving my book launch authors so that I could take time to finish my own book this weekend that I had not watched it yet. Thanks for the nudge.

    However I did find and blog about another powerful movie about acknowledgment. I hope you do not mind me sharing this with your readers? This kind of message that you see in both the acknowledgment movie here and the blue ribbon movie in my post needs to be liberally spread.

    Thank you for sharing this post and your own life lesson, Anne!

    The Story Lady

  4. Scott Moroney on December 2nd, 2008 9:00 am

    Based on your theme above, you may enjoy a book I read a few years back, still very alive and well, by Tim Sanders. Love is the Killer App.

    The book gives some rise to what we know recognize as social media in that he is advocating that we open up our knowledge and use it to make a positive contribution.


  5. ‘Personal Validation’ Alone Is a Powerful Concept: But What If You Factored in the Power of the ‘Law of Attraction’ When Leaving Everyone You Meet With a Smile Or Blessing? Wow! : Boomer Lifestyle on January 19th, 2009 4:43 pm

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  6. Traian@Vancouver SEO on August 20th, 2010 8:03 pm

    Anne, the video was great. Thanks for sharing it. And Tony is right, when you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears. that made my friday 🙂

  7. Michael Dylphe@Window Tinting on March 20th, 2012 1:58 am

    I love this article 🙂

    I used to pray every night before I sleep. I always thanked God for loving me and giving me everything I need, which includes both the good and bad. I felt happy after the prayer and would have a very good sleep 🙂

  8. Homer@Miami Homes on April 1st, 2012 4:54 pm

    “It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” Wallace D. Wattles