‘Personal Validation’ Alone Is a Powerful Concept: But What If You Factored in the Power of the ‘Law of Attraction’ When Leaving Everyone You Meet With a Smile Or Blessing? Wow!

January 19, 2009 by  
Filed under Anne Holmes, Blog, Relationships & Family

 Can You Harness Power of Validation?

About six weeks ago, as we moved into the year-end holiday season, I told you about my intent to personally take note of everyone I encountered, on a daily basis for at least 30 days. My plan was to make sure that I recognized everyone, but more powerfully, I wanted find some way to compliment each and every person in a unique and personal way.

In personal development terms, this act I was taking on is called, “Validation,” which is defined by the self improvement gurus as “an observable act and human behavior that espouses both appreciation and gratitude.”

However you want to define it, my decision was largely inspired by watching the short movie, “Validation,” which is freely available on YouTube, and, with over 426,000 views since it was uploaded, has acquired a bit of a following…

Here Are My Personal – Albeit Unscientific – Results:

During this time period, I had a lot of fun, and exercised my creativity:

  • I didn’t just offer individualized (or personalized) recognition and validation to friends and family members
  • I also offered validation to total strangers I met on my daily journey
  • I didn’t just make eye contact with everyone I encountered, while greeting them with a generic “Good morning,” or “Hello”
  • I actually made a point to personally engage each person I met in conversation, offering some sort of individualized and personal feedback; with the goal to leaving them smiling and in a more positive mood than when I’d met them.
  • Sort of like Clint Eastwood, in the movie “Dirty Harry,” I actually tried to “make their day” – (but In a very uplifting way!)

The particular attempt at validation varied, depending on the person and the situation.

  • It might have been as simple as a genuine compliment about something they had done, the impact they were having on the people around them, or the attractiveness of something they were wearing
  • On other occasions, it was a personal inquiry that showed I remembered something about them from a conversation we’d had the last time we’d met
  • And in the case of total strangers, it was a personalized comment based on my appreciation of the situation at that moment. You know, something a lot more personal than, “So do you think it’s going to snow today?”

Doubtless I will never see some of those people again. But it was still empowering to take note of their presence, and leave them with a warm feeling in their hearts.

To review a few of the dozens of people I had the opportunity to positively interact with, so you understand the scope of my actions:

  • A couple who held the door for me as I entered a store
  • Checkers and cashiers at gas stations, restaurants, grocery stores, pharmacies and shops
  • Waiters, and restaurant owners, with whom I might previously have exchanged general chit-chat
  • A handful of postal workers, who I see at the window and make idle conversation with on a regular basis, as well as fellow USPS customers, none of whom I’d met before
  • Of particular note were a couple of fellow customers at a gas station: one,  who saw me attempting to open my car’s hood, so I could add windshield wiper fluid to my car. One came over to offer to assistance with the latch; another stepped in to offer to pour in the fluid… Both were total strangers who doubtless didn’t know each other, and who may never be in the same place at the same time again…

They All Felt Appreciated – And I Felt Great, Too!

That’s one of the key “take aways” about validation – which you would probably best define as “a specific acknowledgment of appreciation for a task well done:” It is even more powerful for the fact that it feels just as good to the person who does the validating as it does to the person who gets validated.

But the unintended outcome was that I was amazed at how many people reciprocated my greeting by going out of their way to help me, even though I am a fully capable adult, and wasn’t seeking or soliciting any sort of assistance!

This was a total surprise which I didn’t fully comprehend until I happened to pick up and read a quick little book called Using the Law of Attraction to Get Anything You Want,” by Shawn Casey and Antonio Thornton.

You See, By My Actions, I’d Unwittingly Called The Law of Attraction Into Play…

You’re probably familiar with the concept of the Law of Attraction. Most people who’ve learned about it define it as a Universal Principal – like the Law of Gravity – that  works every time, whether you choose to use it for your benefit or not. In other words:

  • Like attracts like
  • Thoughts become things
  • In life, you will always get what you are expecting to get, because that’s what you call into action

If you haven’t seen the Validation movie yet, you should. It’s both powerful and uplifting, though a number of people also report that it makes them cry, so be warned. At a bit over 16 minutes, making the decision to watch may daunt you, of course.  But you’ll find it is thought-provoking and well worth your time…

And if you’d like to learn more about how you can use both Validation and the Law of Attraction in your day-to-day life, grab the book, too. It’s a very worthwhile, quick read.

Among many other points made in the book, Shawn Casey tells of an organized personal greeting effort – similar to mine – which has been growing, worldwide. Started in Florida, this movement is called “Hello From My Heart Day.”

Seems that by invoking the Law of Attraction, and consciously choosing to validate, or genuinely greet people, you can actually participate in a growing movement that has reduced violent crime by as much as 33% according to statistics cited in the book.

Who Knew There Was That Much Value to Personal Validation?

  • Grab the book, “Using the Law of Attraction to Get Anything You Want,” learn how you can use the Law of Attraction to get anything you want – and discover how you can help reduce violent crime in our world.
  • What a deal! Especially since the book is only a measly seven bucks!
  • What’s that equate to? For the price of a fast food meal, you can get on the road to improving your life, and help make the world a better, safer place for all of us!
  • That’s gotta be what they call a “no brainer,” right?

Read the Book and Prepare to Have Your Life Changed.

And after you’ve digested it, feel free to send me a note telling me how it impacted You!


12 Responses to “‘Personal Validation’ Alone Is a Powerful Concept: But What If You Factored in the Power of the ‘Law of Attraction’ When Leaving Everyone You Meet With a Smile Or Blessing? Wow!”

  1. Charles@Las Vegas Homes on January 28th, 2009 7:15 pm

    I was wondering if you saw the YouTube video with T J Thyne. I’m sure it will have a lot more views by the end of the month. I’ve been trying to be just more helpful and pleasant in general for the last year. Mostly because I can’t stand rude people and didn’t want to be a hypocrite. During that time I actually made a new friend and met some great people, one of whom actually remembered me and ended up buying a home from us. So you never know how your good intentions towards others will pay dividends back to you. Just think how much more pleasant life would be if everyone practiced this.

  2. Cathy Warren on January 30th, 2009 9:12 am

    Interesting experiment. People in general want to be nice to each other, but someone has to make the first move. I also find it helpful to compliment people you barely know on their clothing, hair, anything that will make them feel good about themselves. Eye contact and a smile go a long way. A friend and I tried a similar experiment some 35 years ago in high school. We decided to smile and say hello to everyone we made eye contact with as we walked down the hall ways. We were amazed by the reactions, some said a soft hello, and quickly turned away, others looked away in shock with out speaking, and the moment was lost for them as we passed each other. The final group struck up conversation and walked away with a smile on their faces. That was all we could hope for, to make a persons day by just saying hello with a smile.
    Still today I try to make this effort in all situations, It makes me feel good to know I may have brightened a persons day by just acknowledging them in a kind way.

    Cathy Warren

  3. Mike@Chicago Real Estate on February 16th, 2009 11:03 pm

    The true force behind every success story lays the will to drive yourself to do what noone else dreamed they could. Be it online or traditional networking law of attraction is behind every success story. Thank you also for sharing the Validation movie also. Definitely, I will watch it.

  4. Richard@Outdoor Wall Lighting on March 12th, 2009 9:44 am

    i think believing in yourself is key. confidence makes a huge difference in peoples lives. if they believe in what they are doing they can really get things done and done well. nice post.

  5. Ty@USPS Jobs on April 13th, 2009 9:26 pm

    Interesting…. I have always thought that your perception of yourself radiates out of your body and if you want to change the way people see you.. think different about who you are!

  6. Dave from Criminal Solicitors London on July 22nd, 2009 7:10 am

    I think it’s pretty rare these days for people to interact, unless they have a specific reason to. I bet some people were suspisious of you though, starting a conversation with them for seemingly no reason.

  7. Mack@Homes Las Vegas on October 10th, 2009 7:39 am

    With the next holiday season fast approaching I think a quick go through of the above would be much more helpful and I am pretty excited to keep myself prepared. Interacting with fellow human beings have become a virtue nowadays and recently I saw the movie “Surrogates” where robots interact on behalf of you to fellow robots representing your friends, wives, kids.. It would be really terrible if it was a reality. I trust in the good old family reunion days and wishes such things happen quite common so that everybody’s life turns happier.

    Mack McMillan.

  8. Sam@Franking Machines on May 27th, 2010 4:53 am

    This is powerful stuff. Our lives have become so busy these days that asking a simple question like “how are you?” has become a formality rather than showing genuine concern for the person. How many of us actually stop and listen to the answer we get to that question? If the answer is anything other than “fine,” we just don’t know what to say next, because, well, we didn’t want to know in the first place how that other person was doing. If only we’d say what we mean and stop for a second to actually care about the people we come across, we can really make a difference in other peoples’ lives while also becoming happier ourselves. Thanks for sharing this experience with us.

  9. Jimmy Cliff@Solicitors in Birmingham on July 10th, 2010 5:34 am

    Validation is cracking video, it really helped me in my every day life. We often forget that we can bring happiness to other with very simple way, a simple smile or ‘how do you do?’ in the same token we under estimate the benefit we can gain from such an encounter.

  10. Don @ homes in henderson on October 18th, 2010 3:20 am

    Too many people are so focused on their own lives that they forget that they can be a positive in someone elses life. Great video.

  11. Wolf @ Las Vegas Million Dollar Homes on February 23rd, 2011 7:08 am

    That’s a good concept. Making people smile will in and of itself make you a happier person and smile inside too!

  12. Criminal Solicitors on March 22nd, 2011 10:17 pm

    For anybody reading this blog who would like to ‘try’ this approach but isnervous, simply start out with a BIG SMILE if you cant face the prospect of actually opening a conversation up yourself.


    Because providing you KEEP that smile going as you walk towards somebody or as they walk towards you, the chances are that they will smile back. Even if its a bit of a nervous smile they give you in return.

    The next move is to simply say ‘HI’ and guess what – they’ll say ‘HI’ too. Practice this for yourself and you’ll find that its generally true and from there, all you need to do is make a further remark.

    Once you begin, you’ll find your own confidence allows you to make conversation quite easily and that will include offering compliments.

    Just make sure you dont confuse a smile with a leer :p